I want to be there!

Oh little one, bring your love here
Oh little one, I need you near
Oh little one, but don’t live in fear of the future
‘Cause I will always be there

                                                                      Daniel Seraphine and David Wolinski

 

Holidays and special days are just regular days for me now. At first it made me sad, but now I seem to be fine with it. My wife will probably never remember my birthday, when we met, wedding, honeymoon, and what probably makes me the saddest, is our anniversary. But still, I keep thinking and making sure she is happy and to never live in fear of the future or the present. I always want to be there, with her.

We look at pictures constantly. She will stop on one picture and remember. Sometimes she will know for sure and maybe 15 minutes later, not quite sure. She is getting really good at faking the memories. Pretending she knows. We laugh a little and I tell her the story behind the picture and then she remembers and finishes the story. Yes, there is hope every day.

I talked to a good friend today. His mother has dementia. We can relate to the same problems and situations. It is so important to talk to others in the same situation as you, if you can. Sad, but awesome that one of my best friends is on the same page with me.

Here is a story a friend sent to me………………So True!

TRUE LOVE (A Doctor’s note)

It was approximately 8.30 a.m. on a busy morning when an elderly gentleman in his eighties arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.00 a.m. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat. I knew it would take more than an hour before someone would be able to attend to him. I saw him check his watch anxiously for the time and decided to evaluate his wound since I was not busy with another patient. On examination, the wound was well healed. Hence, I talked to one of the doctors to get the supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound. We began to engage in a conversation while I was taking care of his wound. I asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment later as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no and said that he needed to go to the nursing home to have breakfast with his wife. I inquired about her health. He told me that she had been in the nursing home for a while as she was a victim of Alzheimer’s disease. I probed further and asked if she would be upset if he was slightly late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was and she had not been able to recognize him since five years ago. I asked him in surprise, “And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?” He smiled as he patted my hand and said, “She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.” I had to hold back my tears as he left. I had goose bumps on my arm, and I thought, “That is the kind of love I want in my life.” True love is neither physical nor romantic.

 

That is how I feel about my wife. Can you say that about your loved one? I also pray it lasts forever. It is never easy to deal with.

routine: noun

1.  regular, unvarying, habitual………… Do it a thousand times. The same way every time.

 

Keep on keeping on. Laugh with your loved one and make them feel like they are loved, safe and important. Every day is a new day. Smile when you wake up and thank the one above for everything. Make my mind strong, my body strong, and my soul strong, in your name Jesus. Amen.

 

Hasta la próxima.