It’s times like these you learn to live again,
It’s times like these you give and give again
It’s times like these you learn to love again,
It’s times like these time and time again
I need to get my wife to try to do things on her own. I took a daily planner. Made copies of it, so I could have a “one day at a time” schedule left on the table for her to read and hopefully do. Not only will this help me, but give her something to give her self-worth.
What I am dealing with is that she thinks she is perfectly fine, and wonders why someone has to watch here. Yet, when you ask her the day, date, or even the year it is, she has no idea.
I had previously purchased a couple of cameras and placed them in certain areas of the house to get a panoramic view. My original reason was to keep an eye on the day caregiver to make sure I wasn’t getting ripped off or abusing my wife. Actually the later was more important. Anyway, the first time I did this was when my day caregiver could not make it, and I had a very important meeting at the office. Well I decided to go into work and tell my wife that I would call her and see how she was doing. When I got to work I immediately turned my computer on and got on the remote access to view. I thought, for the first time doing this, she did great. I had to call her a few times though. I could tell she was looking for something. I would call her and ask how she was doing. Where are you, she would ask. I am at work, I would reply. This happened probably at least 4 to 6 times. But still, I was happy with the results.
Even still, I need someone with her during the day. Just to keep her company. She does not change into clothes. Her pajamas are still on when I get home. She will sit and watch TV, or play with her IPad. She seems to have no desire to do anything. At least she can walk ok, go to the bathroom and at least stay hydrated. I am not sure when I will leave her alone. Maybe once a month or so? I need to just keep the faith and keep trying.
Anyway, keep on keeping on. Laugh with your loved one and make them feel like they are loved, safe and that nothing ever happened. Every day is a new day. Smile when you wake up and thank the one above us for everything. Make my mind strong, my body strong, and my soul strong, in your name Jesus. Amen.
Hasta la próxima.